So, after years and years of comments that makes an infertile lady go nuts I finally had enough...I blew up! The last few years I have been very open with my struggles, before that? Not so much. Any child is a miracle, but DD? She saved me. Friends around me were getting pregnant, having babies, and there DH and I sat...when we got news that we were pregnant (after 5 years) we honestly had no idea what to do next.
So, back to the story. If someone askes me where I am at in my journey, I tell them. Sometimes I even start talking about it without being asked (with close friends). Well, one day at work a guy (out of the blue) tells me that I need to relax. He has said this to me at least once every week for the last 2+ years. So I lost it. I told him that 1. I have a medical condition that is preventing me from getting pregnant. 2. Relaxing isn't going to make my hormones, insulin, ovaries, and uterus work correctly. 3. Don't ever talk about it to me again.
Since then? No, he has not said one word about relaxing. Aaaahhh...THAT relaxes me.
LOL... glad you clued him in! Oh, and thanks for putting up a key to the abbreviations... some of them I could figure out - but others, not so much. :-)
ReplyDeleteI am sure there are a few more to add...guess I will update as I go...;)
ReplyDeleteGood for you!!! I hate when people say that, so very very much!
ReplyDeleteWoo Hoo! You go girl!
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you spoke up. I would be livid if someone said that to me all the time. I thankfully only get occasional comments now. Still so frustrating.
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Or how about when they tell you they'll give you their kids...like it will change my mind for wanting one, or wanting more? LOL Aaaahhh....sooooo many comments....
ReplyDeleteGood for you! Its good to know that theres one more person out there who now knows that "relaxing" just wont do it for everyone.
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Way to go! I also have secondary infertility. I don't think we get as many stupid comments as people suffering with primary infertility have to put up with - but still, it sure does get annoying. Wondering when I will finally snap at somebody, too!
ReplyDeleteHere from ILCW and love your blog! Will be following your journey and hoping for another miracle.
Thanks gals!
ReplyDeleteAnnie - I got them when I was suffering from primary infertility too...and now here it is again...LOL have to laugh or I will go insane!
Awesome! So glad you were able to say what needed to be said! It is so hard to listen to "advice" from people that really have no clue.
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